HOW TO EXPERIENCE CENTERED RELATIONSHIPS IN THE HEART

And a child that we see through the eyes of our parents. This is our gateway to the world and they teach us about the world. They teach us to be or not be in the world. We look to them to show us how to foster self-esteem and develop a loving relationship with our self.

Relationships form the basis of our life and our sense of self-identity.

As souls experiencing our human journey without relationships that do not grow. Without relationships, especially where there are a loving relationship with our self, to stagnate and not grow. Now that may not sound like a very spiritual statement, but what I mean is the following:

 sole purpose of our soul is to express the Divine. To be an avenue for unconditional love.

 soul helps us, as humans, do this when we are open to your guidance and allow our soul to express themselves through each of us.

 That way we as humans become the expression of the Divine.

 So, we can experience relationships centered in the heart, without any unnatural fear, commitment, control, judgment or guilt, and open our hearts to love is always flowing to ourselves and to the people in our lives.

Our life flows or does not flow from the relationships we have with ourselves and with others. So it is crucial to develop a loving relationship with our self first. This is the most important relationship we can have. When we are well within our selves, then our outer world flows in the direction we want.

Relationships we have with others, be they parents, siblings, partners or friends present us with the opportunity to love our self. That's why I say we stagnate without relations ... why not create paths for the soul to love and therefore not express the love of the Divine.

Now, the relationships we have chosen are affected by some degree, sometimes much to our experience in growing, by our genetic traits and traumatic events that may have experienced, especially when young. These experiences affect our sense of self and therefore our relationships. Many are buried away in the subconscious part of our mind and jump up when triggered by situations in which we hear and what we see. If the relationship we have with our self is dysfunctional, then the relationships we form outside ourselves we will be impacted by our reactions and subsequent behaviors.

I'm not saying here that we put blame on our childhood and our families for any dysfunction that we experience in our adult relationships. But we can use this period of formation of our lives to give us clues about the "why" do what we do. But the good news is that we have the answers within ourselves. We are the golden key that opens the door for the fulfillment and deeply nurturing relationships as our soul comes to take our hand and guide us back to self-love. We have both the wisdom and inner knowledge, and we can access that by changing the way we perceive ourselves and others.

Ultimately, that's what we feel about our selves that have the greatest impact on all of our relationships. But by being aware and maintain the presence of our self we bring healing the deepest nature to all our wounds.

So how do you create a relationship centered in the heart?

1. accept your partner, family and friends for who they are and allowing them to be who they choose to be.

This allows you to stop any guilt, judgment, criticism or controlling habits. It also frees you from any place or state of mind that has become stuck. Now you can separate the emotional lines that connect in the same old position. Relationships are all about being ourselves, with each person in the relationship allowing the other to be true to your self. This is not to be what the other person wants us to be or trying to live up to your expectations, but using what each brings to the relationship to help each other grow.

2. Seeing that what is manifesting, or has manifested in your relationship / s have a link for you. You have a part in their manufacture.

3. back in self, and looking at the bigger picture, so you can see the wisdom that is being presented to you, and the gifts that each of you bring to the relationship. This helps you to observe and start separating your thoughts, pulling back your energy to use it for the purpose of better and more loving results.

4. Recognizing the part you want to play in the relationship and focus your thoughts on the positive aspects of people in these relationships. In this way, you bring out the beautiful aspects like the love you send, encourages the other person to do the same.

5. It is to be true for you, honoring your feelings, and do not compromise your own truth and love, so Foster, self-confidence and trust in who you are.

6. It is to be compassionate and asking to always connect at the heart level to all the people you have relationships with so that you deny any possibility of trial.

7. You see that all the people in your relationships, including you, as equals. And everyone has an equal voice.

8. Accept that they are also a soul whose human journey can also feel hard and long and, as a result of their conditioning, perhaps unaware of their features and how they respond to you.

9. It is to be clear about what you are communicating about what you want and who you want to be. Do not leave it to others in their relationship to work it. They are probably also struggling.

10. see the other as an extension of yourself and ask if your actions and your intentions are something you would like to receive.

Sandy Hounsell founder of Soulawaken is on a mission to clean up the toxic waste that's holding people back from a step forward for the vibrant, happy healthy lives they deserve.